If you are a person thinking about moving to a nursing home, or a family member concerned about a loved one living at home, it can be very difficult to start the conversation with family members about the possibility of moving to a Nursing Home.
It is important to know that you are not alone in this as many people can feel nervous, uncomfortable and even guilty when considering how to bring up the subject. If everyone is in agreement then the preparation and conversation will go smoothly.
However, as you know your family better than anyone else you may be aware of objections that might be raised when talking about a move to a nursing home.
Therefore, we have prepared some common objections and possible ways to consider keeping the conversation open and limit any possible distress.
Note: All FirstCare Home Managers and our experienced Social Work team can help you navigate these choppy waters.
You’re right, we have been managing up to now, but we can’t manage any more. I get worried about loneliness, falls, access to emergency help, and medication/other care management.
When I’m your main caretaker, there can be gaps in what I’m able to resonably provide, no matter how available I am. At FirstCare, there’s staff to help with whatever you need whenever you need it. I just want to make sure that you’re cared for no matter what the situation is.
You do and we will always have each other, but it’s becoming more difficult when you have only me to depend on. At FirstCare, there’s lots of qualified staff to support you, as well as the social company of others.
We could, and I know that sounds like a good answer. But think about it – you’d still be by yourself most of the time. I hate seeing you at home without the help you need as we can’t have 24/7 help, not to mention the lack of contact with other people and activities that you used to enjoy.
I know you do and it’s great that you do. But even one missed pill now and then – or one too many – can be dangerous. I want you to keep having good days for a long while. At FirstCare, someone will be there to discreetly remind you of exactly which medications you need to take at what times, whether you need to take them with a meal and all those other important details.
You’re right, you don’t. The people who live in FirstCare homes often just need a little help like you do, and the staff are always discreet about it. You’ll have your own room, delicious meals and interesting things to look forward to every day. You’ll actually be more independent than you are now because you won’t have to wait around for me to help you when I can.
Then, of course, you don’t have to stay. At FirstCare they are keen to hear what can help residents be more comfortable and happy, so they will do all they can to make sure you are happy there, but if after trying it for a few weeks you don’t like it then we will see what else is available.